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Hi All,

My bf and I are new to the lifestyle and discovered that we're total voyeurs/exhibitionists at our first swingers house party a few weeks ago; one that he sought out & surprised me with, as we'd discussed trying soft swinging in-depth beforehand at his prompting and I'd expressed my great interest. We had a blast and especially both really got off on being intimate with each other while surrounded by others doing the same thing...or so I thought! So we went to a swingers club event last night and once things got popping we went into an orgy room that was packed full of people having sex on beds as well as people lining the walls watching. We started off standing along the wall and got into some heavy foreplay, me exposed in front of him while he was rubbing me everywhere. He was fully dressed & I could feel that he was totally aroused, so I spotted an empty bed in the crowd and suggested we snatch up the spot & get down to business. To my surprise, he said he didn't want to do it in that room and led me away to a more private, yet still publicly viewable spot elsewhere where only one other couple was going at it beside us out of reach. He then got totally naked and we proceeded to have a great time just the two of us with the other couple nearby; we got interrupted once by someone who had been watching us for a while from a slight distance who asked if we wanted some company, which we kindly declined, but way fewer amounts of people passed by this area or stopped to watch us for long. I later asked him about what happened in the orgy room; was he self-conscious in front of all those people or something? He said no, the lighting was too bright in the orgy room, and he left it at that. Seriously? That's it? He's a pretty manly man who hates even admitting to having a headache & appearing weak; so I didn't press him about it, but I know he's not telling me the full reason why he got suddenly shy in the orgy room. I'm now wondering if he suddenly got stage fright or something which is odd because at our first party we had sex with each other while literally surrounded by people going at it on the same bed with us - in retrospect it was really dark in there though. Haha What do you experienced folks think it could have been that made him reluctant to do that again this time?

Your hypotheses would be appreciated.
Thanks!

Over the years we have noted that there are two prevalent sex techniques practiced by the men.
1. The Jackhammer, from start to finish.
2. The Girl on Top.

Not every guy does this, but it does occur enough to bring it to our attention.

Now, both are fine methods, but we like a little variety. Start slow, so she can enjoy the entry, work different positions and angles, then finish off with the deep hard and fast thrusts.

What style do you prefer?
Do you prefer something different when swinging?


-Note. We are NOT complaining about the above styles. Mrs two4you is more than confident enough to let her partners know what she wants in a positive manner, and Mr two4you has no issues with taking instruction when he isn't hitting the buttons. :)

:D When establishing rules with your own mate as to what you are comfortable with and are not. Is it ok to impose what you want them to do or not do with your mate? I have a certain thing I don’t want her to do at least not until I’m more comfortable with it. There is a particular guy (couple) I want us to hook up with. They are very nice, we have been together before. My wife has done oral on him, I have not really had a chance to play with his wife. Me and his wife seem to be the followers and him and my wife seem to be the more aggressive. In the previous encounters we have only done soft swing. Having full sex with our own partners only and light touching of each others spouse, some light kissing as well as girl on girl touching and kissing. My wife as I mentioned has gone down on him and he has finger fucked her. We were all present and that’s the way I want to keep. :confused: Now this is where I think it gets stupid (and it is on my part, not anyone else, just in my mind) I do not want her kissing him while they are fucking. So much so that a do not want them to do missionary position together in the chance they may slip. Don’t get me wrong I don’t have a problem with them fucking because I feel that is exactly what it will be for them “a great fuck” :eek:. He is much larger than me down there, and I think this has intimidated me to the point that that I don’t want him kissing her while they are going hot and heavy at it. I would love to see her getting it on with him doggy, which just happens to be her favorite position anyway (she states it feels like if goes in deeper that way). I feel that doing it doggy would lessen the chance of them “making out” while in passion and give me a chance to get the idea out of my head that she will fall in love with his penis. I told you all it was a stupid thing. ANY way here is my question, and it is not whether you think I am ready or not. Girls if your husband or BF asked you to do this, do you think it would be a stupid request? Would you try to follow it ? what would you tell him if you ended up breaking the request not on purpose but because you did end up getting way into it and ended in a passionate kiss ( and just in case, that is what I mean, that passionate kissing with you are having the time of your life, not the way that you are kissing your wife when say bye), I know there times when me and my wife just go at it like teenagers and just kissing her while fucking her is such a turn on, for right now I want that to be just for me, maybe later. And one last thing, what if you were getting it on hot and heavy... which is how I think is should be, but you slip and start getting into a passionate kiss. How would you feel if in the middle of all this you would be getting a slight leg massage or light tug as in "ok let stop this" would you get mad or feel angry? again these are just questions

D&D's post in this thread http://www.swingersboard.com/forums/...426#post464426 got me wondering how many guys like a nice cock bite? Or being bitten?

I am a biter and hubby tolerates it most of the time. I like to get all the way down to the base of his cock and give it a nice firm bite:) He tends to like it more when we are hot and heavy into it than when we are enjoying a slow lazy session. I like to bite just about anywhere he will let me, there's just something about flesh between my teeth, grrrr:)

Because he isn't a big fan of being bitten and I can get carried away at times, we have looked for a biting toy, but have yet to find anything. We had a jelly dildo that felt really good in my mouth and had the right amount of squishiness, but I bit through it:( I went to the Lion's Den and tried a bit - sorta like a horse bit - but it was vinyl and tasted bad.

I recently got lost in the moment and made someone bleed, certainly not my intent. I also got in a biting mood with hubby and a single male friend of ours and both of them were bruised in multiple places for a couple weeks We have yet to find a playmate that likes it that rough.

I have to wonder how many people like more than a nibble. How rough is too rough?

One day last week, one of the "professionals" at my office showed up clothed in the most awful, ill-fitting casual attire I have ever seen. The last two buttons on her blouse we not fastened exposing her midriff and belly button. And her Chinos were at least one size too small. Not like the male professionals are fashionistas. One of these apparently owns no belt nor is he of a mind even to rent one. Another regularly wears sandles, on one occasion with Argyle socks. I've been known to walk out of the house wearing mistakes but nothing, I'm confident, as egregious as these.

Do any of you have to suffer these sights at your place of employment?

my wife wants to chat with single guys from her computer at work. When contacting single guys we both agreed that we only give them my number and they are free to text, call, and send pictures to her anytime from there, and the same goes for her. Now she wants to mobil text with them from her computer at work. I do not agree with this because it is taking me out of the mix completely, and is pretty much just like giving them her private number...because they can contact her without me knowing it. Its not that I dont trust my wife, I dont trust the single guys trying to get her to stray. I know she would never do that...but why put myself and her in that vulnerable situation when everything has been fine the way we were doing things orignally? When I told her that I was not comfortable with her doing this she got very angry with me and said that I didnt trust her. This just makes me wonder...

I wonder how your local club treats singles - both men and women...

At the one we attend most often, single women get small (nearly free) door fees and are welcome any day. Like many clubs, there aren't a lot of single ladies around.

Single men, on the other hand, pay more than a couple and are limited on Saturdays (1 single to every 5 couples), and are not allowed in the play areas without being accompanied by a couple.

This isn't necessarily a discussion about the fairness of it all or the clubs' motivation...just a curiosity.

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Hello everybody. My wife and I joined the board several years ago as newbs to ask questions and get somewhat familiar with the lifestyle. At the time I was working in a religious context so we had to be very discreet about our activities. Despite our best efforts we were "outed" by a close friend and had to take a hiatus from the site. Life got really complicated after that for several years, but we are now settled into new lives (without worry of religious judgement) and are back on the board and happy to be able to participate again. So, while we are not new to the site (or swinging anymore) we thought it might be a good idea to reintroduce ourselves.

AcuTwo weeks earlier she had told me to clear my calendar, and be prepared for a great b'd. I am many years older than her (20). The day finally arrived,we meet at hotel, go to pool, shower then go to comedy show. While at the show she reached under the table and grabbed my cock (as the waitress was taking our drink order). The waitress smiled and went to get our drinks. G/F then spread her legs and guided my hand to her wetness,( she was wearing a very short skirt). Waitress returned with our drinks and extra napkins,smiled and said I wil check on you later.(our hands still in each others lap). We played with each other the whole time. As we left the show ( I had to adjust myself pulled my cock up under my belt to help conceal the bulge). Once in my vehicle she grabbed my cock and said let's skip dinner and return to the room. Getting ready to get in Jacuzzi she stopped,sat down on the edge and stuffed my cock in her mouth. She sucked the head for a minute then stuffed the whole 7 1/2 " down her throat,(looking me in the eyes the whole time). She held it there for a moment then released it and told me to sit down in the jacuzzi. Following her direction she followed me sitting down on my cock. She came almost instantly, her muscles squezzing me tightly. Few moments and then she started riding hard, water going everywhere. 20 minutes of this and she said now you are going to do me. We got out went to the bed and she said get behind me. I enterd her to the hilt,grabbed her hair pulled her head back spanked her ass. A few minutes later we came together hard her muscles again clamped down on me so hard I couldn't move. We collapsed,breathing hard,fell asleep. She woke me up twice wanting more. When we checked out and parted ways she said happy birthday. Best birthday ever.

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Being a randy old man of 70 and married to a very sexy woman of the same age, I wonder what older woman think of their sexual life over the years?
As for guys I think most guys are up for just about anything sexual from whatever age they can start playing.
I often wonder what women’s feelings and response to their sexuality has been through their life, their first sexual experience from the first time a guy tried to get his hand under her dress or into her top, to married women and their response to things their husbands wanted them to do, or did the woman take the initiative? Did they ever play up or even think about playing up with other men?
I would love to hear from any mature women on their thoughts!
I often see silver / grey headed older women and wonder what their sexual experiences have been?
Briefly my wife’s experience, we started going together just before our 18th birthdays (we are the same age) she was from a very strict Church going Catholic family and honestly thought that every time a woman had sex she had a baby and that her mother must have been a very sexy woman as she had six children (the Catholic Church has a lot to answer for), I had to buy books to educate her on the fact’s of life.
I must have done a pretty good job of it as I took her cherry when we were 19, we married at 21, had our family at 28 and 30, we met friends and through them joined a nudist club where we soon found out their was an underground swinging movement, after flittering around on the edge of it for a while we finally joined in with the swingers (it took a lot of talking on my part to get the wife to agree to it), we were 35 and had been married 15 years when the wife went with her first ever other guy, that opened the door to 30 + years of swinging, swapping and her being a hot wife with other guys, after the first time she took to the lifestyle like a duck to water. The last 10-15 years of our playing has mainly been M F M threesomes, I love watching, joining in and going silky seconds.
I would be extremely happy to hear from other mature woman or their husbands who would be willing to tell of their sexual experiences over the years?
We have now been married 50 years early next year and are still very much in love and still have an active sex life.
Rick181au.
PS We get a lot of randy old men in these chat rooms but very few women, what happens to them? :confused:

My husband and I have been together for almost 7 years. We have a great relationship, although it hasn't always been that way. There was a time that I went through a long spell of not wanting to have sex. But now for the past few months, I can't get enough. It's been great for both of us. We have both become a little freaky here lately.
He has recently shared with me that he thinks it would turn him on to see me with another man. He sees how much pleasure I get from the toys he uses on me and wanders if he would get the same arousal watching me and another man.
He has also told me that he thinks he would get turned on by watching me with another woman, just sitting back and watching. I'm not too sure about this one. I have tried that before (about 10 years ago) and I was very uncomfortable.
I have mentioned bringing in another couple, so that it would be equal for the both of us. I think I would be okay with that, but he said that there would have to be boundaries. We have been discussing this for almost a week, but no decisions have been made. We have a great relationship and the last thing we want to do is mess that up. When he brought up the idea of seeing me with another man, I was in total shock. I never expected anything like that to come out of his mouth. We were having sex when he mentioned it. That was the first time we have ever talked about anything like this, but we have been speaking of it every day since then (last Saturday). I just don't know how I would feel about bringing in another woman. We have both asked, "What if you like him/her more than me? What is him/her performs better than me and then you don't want me anymore?"
We do know of a couple that had a threesome, and the fiance got upset because he was having sex more with the other girl, than with her. My husband admitted that he may do the same only because it is something that would not happen often, maybe even only one time. He says his fantasy is having me and another woman, but he said that's every man's fantasy. I've never really thought of any kind of fantasy, though.
I don't know what to do. I need advice/suggestions, please share yours.

I see this over and over again. Do you think this is a fair statement? It is said many times on here that there is no judgement for thos who can't handle swinging but these statements tend to suggest otherwise. The notion that 'you love them enough' or 'your love is so great to allow' says to me that maybe what is said to those who can't get a grip on swinging and what is really thought may be two different things.:?: